A lot of researches and articles proof that it isn't quite well to stand on either point for whether love making is good or bad for one's studies. They do theorize that Love making has got a double edge on both sides but this line can be drawn from the kind of partners that are involved and what they do in their love making. So it is safe to say that it is quite well for studies and can also be very bad for your studies. But since this article was written based on the reports on the damaging effects of love making of most students at this level it is advisable for students to restrain if they can not handle it in a matured way. Some students at this level can do well with it but most are weak at it and are more likely to take it at the expense of their studies resulting in poor performances. From my own encounter and various interviews I had with students at the JHS and SHS level they confirm that 'love making plays with your mind or interferes with their brain's ability to focus when studying'. I have also seen students come out with poor performance as a result of the careless relationship they had back at school.
Research published in the journal motivation and emotion in 2003 found that people who are in love are “less able to focus and perform tasks that require attention than those who aren’t enamored”. In addition, the more in love the participants in the study were, the more difficult it was for them to concentrate on assignments. The study authors aren’t quite sure why exactly love makes your brain go fuzzy but they do theorize that a balance between focus and fantasy is crucial for a successful relationship(A report from Foxnews).
The power of love is so strong that when a person loves someone with all their heart and mind, they will do anything for them and will want to satisfy themselves in any respective. Love can make people less interested in studying and the time they devote in studying can decrease rapidly. So it is possible for love to wreck a person’s education and destroy their bright future(Sok Karon, a year three student at the Asia Europe University)
When people consider love in their minds as more important than their education, they won’t care about their studies and will therefore be wasting their potentials by given no thought to the future. Love, you shouldn’t allow into your mind when studying( Lim Lythong, a year-4 student at the Royal University of Law and Economics).
When people fall in love, they will spend too much time with their partners without thinking about their studies and future. As a result, the most challenging, intelligent student can suddenly become the dumbest in the class. In addition, falling in love pushes education to the back of a person’s mind and they sometime give up their studies. Everyone should be aware that embracing love feels wonderful but may turn out to be fatal for your studies( Ol Sreymom, a management student at the National Institute of Business)
When people become consumed by love, they can destroy themselves by forgetting their duty as a student and spending too much time with their partners(Kann Tuesday, a secretory at the Cambodian Agricultural Research and Development Institute).
Love snatches away precious times, no wonder Albert Einstein said “when you sit with a nice girl for 2 hours, you think it’s only 2 minutes”.
Not only consuming the precious time but they become so obsessive and addicted. They spend so much time thinking about each other. They obese their minds with heavy thinking both in their leisure and working hours, so they can’t have free minds to fully concentrate on assignments. They cherished their love so much and any other thing including studies is a secondary matter.
It is difficult to get out of it after you have fallen in love. The reason aside the hormonal changes that occur in love is that, on campus you're much close to each other and the closer you are, the stronger the bond it becomes. That is why you don’t even have to try it. Being a student means being focused on your studies.
Let’s come to ask ourselves; why can lovers stop thinking about each other and have full concentration?
If you have ever falling in love, you know the infatuation that occurs in the early stages of a relationship can feel all encompassing and exhausting.
Researchers at the University of Pisa in Italy set out to find the reason why and discovered the biochemical effect of romantic love can be indistinguishable from having obsessive compulsive disorder. The scientists found out that people who felt in love in the previous times had similar low levels of serotonin (a hormone that produces calmness in humans and let the individual stay free and focused) which might explain why you can’t stop thinking about your baby all day and night( from foxnews). This simply means that as you get obsessive in love, this hormone reduces in production and one becomes highly desirous to stay with their lovers. So my people, you can't hit and run away as far as this hormone is concern. Simply not even try it.
Let’s also come to talk of another hormone called oxytocin, this hormone increases as people are in love. Oxytocin is the bonding agent, the cuddle chemical. This bonding agent makes us want to connect, physically with one another and once connected, stay connected. It is a powerful force which you can’t afford to overcome( Sex and the brain by Mark Turrel).
A study from the University of Maryland says that “if your mind begins to dance around in circles and even focusing on something ordinary makes you crazy, blame it on your love. Being in love interferes with your brain’s ability to stay on task”.
Love can actually transform the way you think and act. There are many freaky ways love can affect your mind and studies but one word is enough for the wise.
I know you may be influenced and even scorned by your mates to go in for a love partner, especially at the final year where you see most of them pairing up and making love. Those times are very delicate and any mistake done will certainly taut your performance at the finals.
They may called you all sort of unpleasant names and mock at you for not having a love partner, but develop a strong cyst, a protective covering against their weapons (their negative comments) and stay focused on your studies.
I know sometimes the influence may be so intensive but ‘it requires a lot of carefulness to kill the fly that perches on the scrotum’. Create a serious atmosphere around yourself to scare away people with
such minds towards you and defend your future. ‘To every close mouth no fly enters’.
Make yourself simple like a student especially the girls so you won’t attract distractions from boys, because ‘around a flowering tree, one finds many insects’.
Ignore powerful statements like; 'you're the only mosquito in my net' 'the only flower my eyes can see' ‘’you are my other half, I can’t stay away from you’, ‘I will die for you’. These are powerful but false commends, no wonder Plato noted “at the touch of love, everyone become a poet”. Trust me, these are lies, no one will die for you. Those statements are only uttered on the mere tips of people's tongues and most of them are not reflected on the inner feelings of the person ('the poet'). They will rather kill your future and run away from you after depleting you.
Know that, ‘you are the makers of dreams, the dreamers of dreams’ like Herb Brooks said. And your time is short, and every minute plays a part to achieving your dream.
No doubt what, the African proverb says ‘a child can play with its mother’s breast but not that of its father’s testicles’. You can’t play with love making as a student at this your level because it is a time snatcher and dream waster. Even when you can't restrain yourself but control the time you give to it at the expense of your studies.PLEASE STAY CALM AND STAY FOCUSED ON YOUR STUDIES.
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